To be human…
is to manifest life through our physical form. We are spiritual beings living a human experience as ‘human beings.’ It is a gift to manifest life in physical form and to enjoy the multitude of experiences life has to offer. If we simply want to be, better to be a rock. And if we simply want to do, better to be a lion! But as human beings, we have the unique opportunity to allow our doing to inform our being and vice versa.
The challenge and opportunity for us is to become aware of our human being-ness so that we can balance our being with our doing. So often we find ourselves moving to the extreme in each direction. I know that for myself, as I grew out of childhood, I steeped deeper into a state of constant doing, without the tools of conscious action. By the time I was in my mid-twenties, I had become quite unhappy. It wasn’t until I developed the tools to reconnect with my being that I was able to realign with what it means to truly be a human being. This required allot of soul searching, stimulated by a significant spiritual journey. I found myself disliking most of who I had been. I thought that in order for me to be happy, I needed to fix myself and to essentially become someone else. I took it to the extreme, something I’m quite good at doing! I ended my successful career in New York Real Estate, I sold my apartments in the city, I moved to the beach and I spent nearly 4 months oscillating between meditating, practicing yoga, running, eating raw, writing and reading. Through all this, I realized that there was nothing to fix. What I realized was that happiness was a decision, albeit one that required great discipline and determination. For me to be happy, I needed to act like a happy person. It was about doing. But I could not fake happiness. So, I really needed to be happy! This required a significant amount of struggle, just to come to the simple realization that for me to be happy I needed to do things that allowed me to feel happy. I had been taught that I needed to work hard, push through and struggle. Having fun and enjoying life was entirely counter-intuitive to what I had been taught by the school of life. As I stepped into this new mentality, what I discovered was that by feeling happy, every other aspect of my life became fluid and emerged with ease. Work no longer felt like work. It was fun. My entire perspective had shifted. What I learned was that it’s most important to focus our energy on ‘feeling’ good. Once this feeling is accomplished, anything is possible! So, there was nothing for me to fix; I just needed to feel more. Sometimes the feelings were painful and challenging to sit with, but ultimately these feelings transformed themselves into ones of joy. It was like the light of consciousness was rising within me and transforming the darkness of fear and sadness into joy. I learned that the way out was through. And that the vehicle that moved me through was my capacity to feel.
For years, I had cut myself off from my capacity to feel. I would push through the pain. I would numb it, doing whatever was required to avoid feeling the pain. I learned this was the road to addiction. This was not a path for me! Through sheer determination and brute force at times, I trained myself to choose behaviors that were positive and allowed me the opportunity to feel more. I’m still learning how to feel more. I must say that it’s not always easy, but one things for sure, I FEEL MORE ALIVE THAN EVER!
What I’ve come to learn is that a huge part of being human is feeling. When I look out at the world and humanity, it seems that our entire human experience is dominated by our collective desire to feel something. Looking from this perspective, it’s amazing to witness the myriad of things we humans ‘do’ to feel something. My hope for humanity is that we align with our being such that we learn to consciously choose actions that empower us to feel more authentically. Collectively, this has the power to transform humanity such that the experience of joy on earth becomes the dominate state.
So, let’s allow ourselves to feel more and choose those things that bring about a feeling of joy!
Love & Light,