Kids are simply the best teachers on earth! The simple elegance in their teachings blows my mind! How the hell are they so darn smart?
I guess it’s cause they’re not intending to be teachers. They’re simply living in alignment with their being. They have no filters because they haven’t formed any. They are so freakin’ pure it makes my heart explode sometimes. The darnedest things come out of their mouths. And at times it feels like they might be the next Einstein. It’s incredible!
Learning from children and raising them with conscious intention is one of the greatest gifts and THE MOST IMPORTANT JOB on earth. What I’ve learned is that one of the most important aspects of raising children is curating and fostering an environment for them that provides them with the structure, love, acceptance and freedom to develop to their fullest potential. I have learned that this is much harder said than done and we cannot control every factor that may inform our child’s development. Trying to do so will surely drive us mad! As always, all we can do is our best and trust that the balance of the relationships that form our child’s environment are positive and nourishing. Naturally, those relationships that have the greatest impact on children come from within the immediate family.
I keep thinking about this idea of layers of our personality, like rings when you cut a tree in half. With each experience that impacts us in a significant way, a ring is formed. Maybe those knots we see in trees are formed by some form of a scar, like a storm that knocked a branch off the tree. Maybe those knots are like emotional scars for humans, formed by traumatic events that occurred in our childhood. The more severe the event, the deeper and more severe the scar. Sadly, most humans don’t even become aware of these scars until they have hardened so deeply into our personalities that they seem like rings deep at the core of our human tree, or personality. Healing these kinds of emotional scars that have become core to our personality requires tremendous amounts of determination, consciousness, intention, patience and love.
The process to heal emotional scars is actually quite simple, yet the energy required is tremendous. What’s required is the willingness to feel the pain of those emotions to the fullest extent, while not judging or attempting to do anything with those feelings. We must simply be with them and allow ourselves to feel them completely. This can be very uncomfortable and completely counter-intuitive to what we have learned as humans. Yet, the only way out is through! When we are able to simply be with our feelings and emotions without judgement, the emotion receives unconditional love and acceptance. In time, this emotional scar heals.
Lesson learned! Time to feel!
Love & Light,
Ryan!
